Reclaiming my post-baby body over 40

Becoming a mother in your 40s brings a distinct set of challenges, not least the physical changes that accompany pregnancy and childbirth. In the months following Cyrus’s birth, I have confronted a body that no longer responds as it once did and the difficult task of rebuilding strength, fitness, and confidence.

Redefining health and balance

For women over 40, post-baby weight loss is neither immediate nor straightforward. Hormonal changes, slower metabolism, and the demands of parenthood all play a role. I have adopted gradual lifestyle changes: alcohol removed from my routine, sugary drinks replaced with water, and high-fat, high-salt snacks limited. Meals are planned for both nutrition and satisfaction: a simple breakfast, a balanced lunch, and an evening that honours family traditions and mindful eating.

Food, culture and wellbeing

Food is never just fuel. Persian shirini, carefully prepared and shared, connects me to heritage and family. Visits to local patisseries provide a meaningful engagement with tradition while maintaining measured indulgence. This approach illustrates that wellbeing can coexist with cultural and emotional fulfilment.

A sustainable path to fitness

Exercise has been a measured component of my recovery. Structured sessions at the community centre and at-home workouts contribute to core strength and overall fitness. The goal is not an idealised image but a body capable of supporting family life and personal wellbeing. In midlife, the pursuit of fitness is as much about mental health and confidence as it is about appearance.

Reflections for other midlife mums

Small, consistent changes are more effective than drastic measures. Progress is measured in strength regained, habits formed, and confidence rebuilt. Midlife motherhood is a balance between caring for others and investing in oneself, both physically and emotionally.

How do you approach wellbeing and balance in midlife? Share your experiences and strategies below.