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Reflections on body dysmorphia: My ongoing journey as a 40-something woman

As I enter my late 40s, I find myself reflecting on a topic that has been a constant companion throughout my life: body dysmorphia. This mental health condition, characterized by a distorted perception of my own body, continues to affect me despite the passing years and an intense gym routine. In this blog post, I want to share my personal experiences, shed light on the challenges of living with body dysmorphia, and offer hope to those who might relate to my journey.

Understanding body dysmorphia

Body dysmorphic disorder (BDD), commonly known as body dysmorphia, is an often misunderstood condition. For me, it’s not merely dissatisfaction with my appearance; it’s a relentless obsession with perceived flaws that others may not even notice. These perceived flaws can range from minor imperfections to major concerns, and they can consume my thoughts, leading to emotional distress and sometimes shutting myself away on bad days.

My early encounters with body dysmorphia

I can trace my own journey with body dysmorphia back to my teenage years at high school. At a time when most of my peers were navigating the complexities of adolescence, I was wrestling with a distorted self-image due to bullying from a handful of boys who’d refer to me having ‘elephant ankles, thunder thighs and rabbit teeth’. I would scrutinize myself in the mirror, focusing on perceived flaws, and go to great lengths to hide or “fix” them. I cried a lot.

The transition to adulthood

As I entered adulthood, I believed that body dysmorphia would fade away with age and maturity. While I did learn coping strategies and gained a better understanding of the condition, it never truly disappeared. Instead, it became a quieter, yet still present, companion in my life.

The late 40s: A new chapter

Now, in my 40s, I’m coming to terms with the fact that body dysmorphia doesn’t have an expiration date. It’s always going to be a part of me, albeit a quieter one, it resurfaces from time to time, especially during moments of vulnerability or stress – presentations being the worst. It’s a reminder that personal growth and self-acceptance are ongoing journeys, not destinations.

The impact on my life

Body dysmorphia has influenced many aspects of my life. It has affected my self-esteem, relationships, and overall mental well-being. It’s led to moments of self-doubt and insecurity, hindering my ability to fully enjoy time with friends. However, it has also taught me resilience and empathy, as I’ve grown more compassionate toward others facing similar battles.

Coping strategies

Over the years, I’ve developed strategies to help manage my body dysmorphia. These include therapy, mindfulness practices, and seeking support from loved ones. While these tools have been invaluable, they haven’t completely eradicated the condition. Instead, they’ve empowered me to confront it and carry on with my life.

Finding strength in vulnerability

If there’s one thing I’ve learned it’s that vulnerability is not a weakness; it’s a source of strength. By sharing my experiences with body dysmorphia, I have connected with others who are going through similar challenges. It’s a reminder that we’re not alone in our struggles, and together, we can offer support and understanding to each other.

My life story

As a 40-something woman, body dysmorphia remains a part of my life story. It’s a reminder that our journeys toward self-acceptance are ongoing and that age doesn’t necessarily bring an end to our inner battles. However, it’s also a testament to the resilience of the human spirit and the power of self-compassion.

If you’re reading this and can relate to my experiences, know that you are not alone. Seek support, practice self-care, and remember that you are more than your perceived flaws. Body dysmorphia may continue to whisper its doubts, but with time and self-love, its voice can grow softer, allowing you to embrace the beauty and strength within yourself.


Saffron and Cyrus is a Newcastle-based family lifestyle blog, covering diversity, self-care, days out, travel, reviews, recipes and more from our family life.
The blog is written by new mum over 40, Aranda, with input from hubby H and four-year-old Cyrus.

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