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Mirror Laughter: Embracing Confidence and Charm in Your 40s

Salaam, fabulous readers!

So today, I want to talk about confidence as our secret sauce, and how for me, body dysmorphia is sometimes a kebab skewer in the grand buffet of life.

I’m left envying the proper Persian mamas sometimes, because in a world that often scrutinises and challenges the confidence of women, Persian women always seem to stand tall, radiating a remarkable sense of self-assurance. How do they do it?

Confidence, Body Image, and Well-Intentioned Wisdom

In a Persian world, where the tea is strong, and the selfies are stronger, let’s remember that even perfect Persian goddesses have their “khob nist” (not good) days. Life is a blend of sweet saffron and the occasional spilled pomegranate juice.

I’ve realised that family is at the heart of Persian culture, and the support and love within these familial ties provide a solid foundation for the confidence of Persian women. The encouragement and understanding they receive from their families empower them to face the world with assurance, knowing they have a strong support system behind them.

Netflix, Hugs, and Amy Schumer:

So, this weekend, after a Persian feast of hugs from H and a mountain of cushions on the sofa, we indulged in ‘I Feel Pretty.’ Amy Schumer bumps her head and thinks she’s the queen of Ghormeh Sabzi. Hilarious dancing and profound life lessons ensue. Looking at myself in the mirror, it’s like negotiating the need for Botox treatments with H – complex and sometimes a little painful.

Empowered, Fearless, and Unapologetically Persian

“I Feel Pretty” the movie whispers to our souls: be empowered, unapologetically own your kebab-loving self, and don’t let anyone dim your saffron-infused sparkle. Confidently facing your forties? It’s like confidently squeezing through the bustling Tehran bazaar – you’ve got this!

My life might not be a fairy tale, but armed with the wisdom of a thousand Persian grandmas, I won’t be waving a white flag anytime soon. Confidence is my secret ingredient.

The Confidence Code for Girls: Persian Edition – Because Sass is Universal

For those craving a confidence boost with a side of Persian spice, “The Confidence Code for Girls” is a must-read. Claire Shipman and Katty Kay may not be Persian aunties, but their advice is like the wisdom passed down from generations of Iranian grandmothers.

Embrace risk like negotiating for the last batch of saffron, deal with failure like recovering from a poorly made tahdig and know your brain like calculating the perfect rice-to-water ratio – with flair and a touch of sass.

So, my fellow Persian queens, let’s dance through the mirror, and confidently savour the kebabs of life!


Saffron and Cyrus is a Newcastle-based family lifestyle blog, covering health, wellness, days out, travel, reviews, recipes and more from our family life.
The blog is written by new mum over 40, Aranda, with input from hubby H and son, Little C.

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  1. Amanda Blackburn
    March 28, 2019 / 2:25 pm

    It gets easier with age I think. Hormones have a massive part to play in confidence. Lack of sleep and poor diet can make us all very emotional and sensitive. Confidence comes when we find time for ourselves. I’ve had so many knocks throughout my life and sometimes I am strong, sometimes I am weak. I’m human and we all are, I don’t judge others and I honestly no longer care how people judge me. ❤️ Nice post 👍

    • March 28, 2019 / 5:41 pm

      Thanks Amanda, I really appreciate your words! They mean a lot x

  2. March 28, 2019 / 7:56 pm

    I remember seeing this film advertised and wanting to see it. I lack confidence a lot of the time.

  3. April 1, 2019 / 6:22 am

    It is so sad the world places so much emphasis on how we should all look and when we don’t think we look perfect we can lose confidence. Beauty really is only skin deep so I keep telling myself – but it’s hard to always believe it.

  4. July 14, 2019 / 8:31 pm

    Thanks for the film recommendation sounds fab. we could all do with a boost in our Unapologetic authenticity. But it’s ok to have a sit now and then and feel sorry for ourselves as long as we get back up and slay the next day. Good luck on your journey. 🙂

  5. October 11, 2019 / 8:44 am

    This is a very empowering post! Thanks for sharing your opinion on self confidence. I agree that we should do what we love and simply love and enjoy our life. Following our passion is one way to gain confidence in things that we do. At the end of the day, we should be spreading love, not judgment. 🙂

    • saffronandcyrus
      November 10, 2019 / 7:20 am

      Thank you Shannon, I really appreciate your comments and it’s great to hear feedback like this because it keeps me motivated to write more

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